Breasts seem to be a popular preoccupation with both men and women, for very different reasons.
However, yesterday, looking at the stats of The Nude Truth,” I noticed that someone searched for “Mom touching my breasts…”
My motherly instincts or perhaps common sense, alerted me that somewhere in these immense world of ours, A GIRL was confused about her mom touching her breasts. I did not know the place, age or for that matter, anything about who did the search. It could have been a search done for a school project about “good touch bad touch,” or may be not.
I woke up this morning with this girl on my mind and questioning:
Did she get her answer? Why was she searching in the first place? More importantly, IS SHE SAFE?
As a result, I am writing this post about good touch, bad touch and who and under what circumstances is one allowed to touch your private parts.
When I went to school to become an instructor and teach new mothers how to massage their babies, the first thing we learn was to ask the baby for permission to be touched, even if a few months old baby didn’t understand, yet, the mother had to show respect.
This post is written for young people under the age of consent, which I believe is 18 (sometimes 16, but I stick with 18.)
It’s purpose is to give very general guidelines about good touch and bad touch and if you think someone is touching you inappropriately, please speak to someone you trust or a school counselor immediately.
As a general rule, when you are old enough to wash yourself your private parts, no one should be allowed to touch you.
If you have a medical problem and a doctor must help you. Generally, if touching of private parts is involved, in the exam room a nurse will always be present in addition to your parent or guardian.
You must feel SAFE. You must BE SAFE and if you question why is this happening, have mixed feelings, fear, are confused, listen to your gut feelings, your instincts. Rarely our instincts are wrong.
Clearly, and I hope, the girl who searched yesterday on the topic of “mom touching my breasts,” searches again. Unless you were in an accident and your mom was trying to see if you are hurt and assess taking you for medical help, or she was applying a cold compress to soothe your pain because you bumped into a hard object, she should not have touched your breasts or your vagina.
If a mother wishes to show love through touch, she may massage a child’s back, neck, feet, hands, always asking for permission, no matter which part of another person’s body one touches, first show respect.
Skin is our largest organ. Experiments show over and over again the importance of good touch, especially in the first year of life and throughout our lives.
I am passionate for good touch, but equally passionate for protecting the innocent against pedophiles.
Unfortunately, a pedophile could be anyone, even a parent, relative, someone you trust and love. Statistics show such is the case in many abuse situations.
This is why it is important that YOU keep in mind these rules, so simple, yet hard to follow because how could a daughter admit to herself, her mom is touching her breasts with other than love on her mind? Yet, it happens and if there is a questioning in your “gut,” confusion, or you are asked to keep it a secret, please speak with someone you trust immediately to avoid being scarred for life.
I do know many teens from allover the world follow this blog. I hope you read this post and it helps you or someone you know.
This is for YOU ALL with respect and concern. Your bodies are yours, not to be touched inappropriately by anyone. By respecting your bodies, you respect yourselves.
I hope this post helps the girl who searched yesterday and others in the large world.
Please know, a woman far away, me, is concerned about YOU and wrote this post in hopes you will seek help and feel better!
If you have questions, please write me in private.