Trust And Safety…

Make sure all is safe, Then relax...

Make sure all is safe, Then relax…

Is total trust possible? Is it real when we think it is, or is all our perception?

This was my “meditation,” as I tried to breathe

out  and in.

Breathe OUT FIRST, slowly… The slower  the more relaxed: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5…Is perfect trust possible?

I feel my boxer’s chin leaning on me, his total trust could not be described, just felt.

Trust,  the foundation of  any good relationship, doesn’t come easy, it is earned. It takes time and work.

How does trust feel?

I breathe out, I breathe in … It feels “safe,” but before we could let go, trust, and feel safe, just like my boxer, Duke, whose trust was betrayed before he was rescued, we need to make sure all IS truly image

imagesafe around us! Then… RELAX!!!

Look right, look left… make sure you could trust to feel safe enough to lean on someone, close your eyes and relax!

Trust doesn’t happen! It is earned!









Hearts’ Paradoxes

A few hearts slightly reminding us of rocks.

They make us similar. The HUMAN RACE!!!

Millions of diamonds of various shapes and sizes,

The proof …

That at core we are unique!

The essence of our Hearts!

The reason we fall in love

With one person and not another!

What could they be made of, the hearts?

Some, of iron,

Other of gold

Perhaps some are of plastic and mimic platinum!

What is essential to stay alive? The material which made the hearts?

Not beautiful, but permanent in their ugliness,





Fearless in their determination to continue

To tick without the horror that

The end is near!

If a heart stops, who cares,

If it was a rock, a diamond or plastic?

It mattered not:

Ugly, beautiful or boring,

Unique or common…

As long as it worked, it mattered not…

ONLY a hole could alert the outsiders

Of the lack of a heart…

A heartless human,

Anyone could detect:

Pale skin,

Bulging eyes,

Rigid body,

The nothingness of it all,

The hope of hopelessness,

The beauty of tasteless ugliness,

After all, is it a curse or a blessing

To have a heart?

Whispers, are they bring sadness, confusion, pain…

A hole could be more comfortable,

Endlessly boring but lasting safely!

Lifeless lives… A CONVENIENT PARADOX!!!


RIP— The useless holders of hearts,

By choice you turned the essence of

Your humanity into a hole!

You became a comfortable owner

No one may OWN a heart, but a hole could be owned

By anyone.

After all, it has no value!

Oh! It feels so light and boring…but SAFE!!!


HOW TO FIND OUT IF YOU REALLY HAVE MONEY DUE YOU!!! The Money You Forgot About! Is It Legal? How To Keep Safe!

This post is rooted in a personal experience therefore first hand experience.

I was reading my Facebook news feed this morning and read a friend’s post about the ads everywhere, informing people that their STATE Treasury might have funds the person forgot about or didn’t know existed.

Some of the commentators wondered, and rightfully so, if it is legal, if it is okay to give YOUR social security to someone on line, etc. This is what triggered me to share this information to explain how it could be done in an EASY, SAFE WAY! 

You DO NOT need an intermediary. Do NOT give your personal information to anyone who solicited YOU, as a GENERAL RULE.

It seems, many people experience this  type of solicitation, which offers to represent YOU and get the money due you, of course for a FEE. Most probable, they will call or contact you by email to offer their services. Do not give your information to anyone who contacts YOU.

 How to Find  out  if you really have  money due you and to do it without an intermediary!

Last year I kept watching the ads on T.V. informing people about the money they are due and don’t know it!

My first reaction was, “Right, what kind of an idiot forgets about money! This must be a scheme!”

The ads continued, and just because… I clearly could use more money,I WENT TO THE PA TREASURY UNCLAIMED PROPERTY WEB SITE!!! I was NOT solicited, I initiated the inquiry.

Sure enough, I put in my name, my old address. I cannot remember if the site asked for my  social security at this stage, but probably, because I was the initiator, I would have given it and it is necessary ultimately, if you indeed qualify. The KEY is to make sure you give it in a safe environment.

In my case, sure enough, I matched! I was one of the idiots who forgot she had money!!! Hmm…

How did this happen? In my situation, there were several $50.00 rebates which were send to my old address after the forward expired . Also,  a life insurance company with which I had an inactive policy, sold to Met Life. Somehow, that transaction resulted in an amount of money due me, although the policy was inactive.

I felt better, how could I have known of all these funds, which were mailed years after I moved and there was NO forwarding address, because the year expired. Then I changed my name, moved again. All these circumstances may lead to YOUR MONEY BEING DEPOSITED IN YOUR STATE TREASURY, Division of UNCLAIMED PROPERTY!!!

After the initial “match” there were several verification steps I had to follow, so the Treasury made sure I was who I said I was, but it was worth it. I did receive a check and had gas money for a while! Not millions, but every dollar counts!

Is It LEGAL???

Yes, it is legal and you could check if you too have money you “forgot about” by following the steps described  in this post.

If I were to do it again, I would FIRST CALL the Treasury at a telephone number which is for sure of the State Treasury because I have heard of new sophisticate schemes which design web sites identical to those of banks and businesses you trust. For that reason, if I were to check now, I’d call first, a safe telephone number  of the REAL Treasury.

For RESIDENTS in PA, here is the info:

Pennsylvania Treasury

Bureau of Unclaimed Property

Tel. 1 800.222.2046

web site:

Good luck, and please don’t forget to send me a commission:))

Rodica Mihalis, M.S. Counseling and Clinical Psychology