Is This Expensive, Or Inexpensive?????

Universal wisdom tells us to speak or write about topics we have experienced personally and know directly.

For instance, I like dogs, nature, cooking and community, volunteer activities. I could address any of these topics with ease and writing or speaking about any of them wouldn’t feel like a burden, but as a joyous activity.

On the other hand, if for some mysterious reason, someone asks me (= forces me) to write about singing Opera or anything technological… oh… well, they would most likely conclude I was…not that smart. There must be a politically correct word for it, but I don’t know it.

In this post I am attempting to address the issue of expensive versus inexpensive, life purpose and perception.

A story will be used, to make it easier to relate to, because most likely a majority of us, humans, experienced it or a version of it directly, in our daily life.

Let’s say, someone would like to experience a massage. Oh, who wouldn’t like the soothing power of good touch. Most people would, but if someone experienced bad touch, then they would fear touch, based on their previous experiences.

This story addresses the people who love good touch and therapeutic massage helps them not only relax, but with a specific physical condition.

Let’s say, the prospective client asks the massage therapist (please note the use of the title, massage therapist, NOT” masseuse,” which in my mind has a sexual connotation. No “happy endings,” people!!!)

The professional described in this story is someone who went to school  for at least six months to become a massage therapist, who knows anatomy, respects privacy   and who passed difficult tests, both written and practical. A person who paid a lot of money and invested her/his soul to help others.

Back to the main stream of our story:

The massage therapist, who is still paying her school loans, responds to the prospective client:

“Sixty dollars an hour.”

“What, sixty dollars an hour!!! Wow, this is how much I spend for food weekly (I guess the prospective client was on a diet.)!!!”

I am intentionally leaving it up to YOU, the reader, to END the story…but will share my PERCEPTION.

If I were the therapist, I’d consider $60.00  a very reasonable fee. In doing so, I’d take into consideration the hundreds of hours I invested in learning the skills to help my clients; I’d consider the high quality equipment, the expensive aromatherapy and the oils/creams I use. Above it all, I’d consider the fact that a part of MY SOUL is invested in each person I help.

Is all of the above worth $60.00? MY PERCEPTION IS, YES, it is.

How about the prospective client’s  point of view? She/he, compares the cost of massage to grocery shopping. If we do that, indeed, the massage is expensive.  However,  isn’t that  comparing apples and oranges?

There is no right or wrong answer, but PERCEPTIONS and points of view, depending of our own interests. I used to say: when you give a massage for $60.00 is inexpensive. When you pay for a massage $60.00 it is expensive!

The key to this story and a confession:

Years ago, I was a massage therapist who was schooled by a group of nuns. The Medical Mission Sisters are known internationally for their excellent work and dedication to the poor.

At some point, in the past, I no longer could  follow the path of being useful by offering the best of me in that profession, but NEVER gave up that I was here, on Earth for a purpose!

Each of us has a purpose. Sometimes, (let’s face it, most times,) like many others, I do not understand the big picture, but must have FAITH. Hmm …Faith… it will be the topic of a different post.

Always DO ONE’S BEST– this is the motto which continues to guide my life!

With that as a guiding principle, I went to graduate school and earned my Master of Science in Counseling and Clinical Psychology. For most outsiders, it looked crazy, to go back to school  at an age when most think “retirement,” but to me it looked like the right thing to do, as I believe in life with a PURPOSE.

At the present time, despite physical limitations, using both  rich and diverse life experiences and higher education, I am an online Counselor for a global counseling company

I hope, in this way, I contribute a small piece to the good cause of de- stigmatizing  mental illness and making help available to people who, otherwise, would not afford quality counseling because of the lack of money.

If you read this post to the very end, I hope you found it helpful and have been reassured of your UNIQUE VALUE and PURPOSE on this life path!

Thank you for continuing to follow the waves of this life as we all are experiencing them… but perceive them differently.





I hope


Dear Friends,

Thank you, the readers and followers of this blog. My special recognition goes to the readers who  commented and the wealth of information shared with us. I like to believe that in a small way, together, we made a positive contribution but small steps, together amount to significantly bettering our world. At least, we try!!! 

We are celebrating today over 10,094 views total,  and as many as 533 views a day on

Nothing would have been possible without everyone’s active contribution and our goal to help others. 

Many of you have been with me from the beginning.

At the end of 2010 I broke my  right ankle and became literally my own slave in a place where I had moved a week prior to the accident.

What to do? “Blog!” suggested somebody, ” you write well.”

“Blog? What does that mean? Blog about what? Where? How do you do THAT?” I took a picture of my injured ankle… hmm and who cared!!!

We are now in October of 2013 and 10,094 views later, many followers and  well over 100 meaningful comments.

I am saying THANK YOU to  the followers and readers  of my blog and also to WORD PRESS who guided me at every step and turned someone who didn’t know the definition of blogging, into an avid blogger.  My gratitude goes to my colleague bloggers who voted this blog “MOST VERSATILE!”  Such is LIFE, and we attempt to keep up with it.

Many of you know that this blog began at the end of 2010. It started as a memoir, which at the end of 2011 was published in paper, than e-pub and Kindle formats under the title, The Gypsy Saw Two Lives.” 

After the book was published, my mission was accomplished, or so I thought. Actually, my passion for writing has never been accomplished, but I was thinking of the “mysterious process of blogging.” 

After the book was published,  every time I checked the blog, I noticed that it still had a significant number of visitors.

People were still reading it, as if expecting more.

Oh! Let’s face it,  the joy overwhelmed me!!!

Someone,  not my immediate family or friends, was still reading what I wrote!!! For any writer, or most writers,  isn’t this a dream come true?

The present post is a BIG THANK YOU to everyone who stood by me and who contributed to this blog not only by reading and sharing it  with their friends and on their networking pages, but by making valuable comments.

My promise is to do my best and together with you, to continue taking small steps, which I trust will continue our journey to improve our world.

Rodica Mihalis

Online Counselor